That Special Someone

December 13, 2009 mylovedoctor
Tags: close relationship, special someone

So, you finally met that special one you’ve been looking for all your life. You’ve been seeing each other exclusively for six months, and things are going pretty well. You’re getting to know each other, slowly developing that trust and intimacy that only lovers can have. And then, you hit the big wall.

No worries. Well, maybe a few. But the good news is that this is a natural point in all relationships when those initial passions have had a chance to burn nice and hot, and the flames have reached as high as they can. So what’s this feeling of uncertainty about?

It’s about being a human. Most of us need an close relationship with a person whom we can trust with our most intimate secrets. Someone who is more than just a friend. But there’s a certainty reluctance to totally give yourself to another person that is hard-wired into all of us.

And that’s as it should be. Each of us have to be self-reliant to survive in this world. There are some things that just cannot and should not be left to others to do. And it’s that feeling of self that raises its persistent voice at the sixth month and says, “Wait a minute – don’t forget who you are”.

That’s a good thing. Don’t ever lose it. No one should ever totally lose themselves in a relationship, because it will doom any chance of success. A really good relationship is a union of two distinct individuals who are able to share their commonalities in a spirit of mutual love, understanding, and support.

So don’t panic. Recognize it for what it is. Talk about it. And then play on.

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