Saturday in the Park

Man, is it hard to think up new things to do. Especially when you’re in the first stages of dating, and you’re trying to keep it exciting enough to get asked back. How many clubs are there in any one city? How many times can you go to the movies, or the restaurants that you both like?

If you’re really getting serious about this other person, and you think that it could lead to something a little more on the permanent side, here’s an idea you might want to try. Get personal. That doesn’t mean get into the other person’s business (unless they offer that). It means be personal. Share yourself.

For instance, would you rather go to Sea World than Saw XXIII? Say so. Make it known what you like to do. This is an outward expression of who’s really lurking inside. So what’s the risk?

Well, this other person may not be interested. They may disagree with your choices. They may not share your passion for bass fishing. So be it. At least they know who you are. And if they disagree, ask them what they would rather do. Make it a genuine discussion.

Next thing you know, you’re finding out all sorts of things about this person that you never even knew. What a person likes reflects what they are like, and this can lead down the road to discovering what makes them tick.

At day’s end, you may find that you are closer than ever. And all because you wanted to go to the park instead of go parking.

Add a comment January 22, 2010

A Rose is Still a Rose

An oldie, for sure. This expression was used quite a bit back in the days before the Internet, digital mail, and television entertained the masses. Yes, the Stone Ages. But it was a way to invite others for a few hours of companionship, with the possibility of continued social interaction afterwards. It wasn’t about the tennis court, necessarily. It was about courting, in many cases.

So what’s the connection? Well, have you tried to be creative when it comes to inviting someone to join you in one activity or another? Good luck. What hasn’t been done? Which activity or sport or dating ritual or hobby or musical genre or clothing style hasn’t already been done, captured on an iPhone, and posted on YouTube or Facebook?

So, what’s a Don Juan or a Cleopatra to do? Streak a 3 Doors Down concert? Get arrested just to get some airtime? Don’t be ridiculous.

There’s a whole world of ideas out there. What matters most is that any idea meant to attract some wanted attention from prospective partners in the dating game has to be unique, if not in content then in presentation. A rose is still a rose, but if it’s attached to an invitation to dinner or a pair of tickets to the latest movie premiere, it will get some attention. The right kind.

You don’t have to re-invent the wheel to go out with someone. Just set the wheels of your imagination in motion. Put a new shine on an old pair of shoes. And you’ll be dancing the night away.

Add a comment January 8, 2010